Random Acts of Something

If you've never heard of the organization, Random Acts of Kindness, you should look into it. It was started soon after 9/11, and has grown into a nationwide (maybe world wide?) volunteer organization. The wife, kids, and I have done quite a bit of volunteering through them in nursing homes, food pantries, and homeless shelters. I found the local "chapter" if you will, through meetup.com. This site has literally hundreds of groups to "join" for various reasons. All you have to do is enter your state and town, to see what comes up. They have groups that provide volunteer opportunities, but there are also support groups, and social groups. I like it because aside from the volunteer opportunities, it has running groups, teacher groups, small business groups, and a local Auburn Fan Club which has watching parties. I also like that it states emphatically on each groups page "This is not a dating site." They do have singles mixers and such, and will say so if that's what you're looking for, but it's nice to go do things without worrying about others "sizing you up" so to speak. I mean, even though I'm not looking for anyone, I'm still self-conscious about how I look, and being sized up only makes me more aware of my appearance. Ya know?

I'm talking about this organization for all the wrong reasons today though. On my daily trip to Starbucks, I pulled in to park, but umm, ended up having to back up, because there was no way I was going to be able squeeze in. Why? Because a car was parked obstructively. On the side of the care was a banner that read "Random Acts of Kindness.... perform one today."  I don't know... parking like that doesn't seem kind to me, and it sure makes me want to perform unkind acts, like upping my insurance so I can ram into them a few times. I'm just sayin'. So the wife can say I have no self control all day long... I didn't ram that car.

We were out and about a few weeks ago when we saw a school bus parked on the side of the road. On it was a banner that read "Need Bus Drivers-apply at blah blah blah." I told the wife I should apply!! I mean, that would have me out early while she's sleeping, and a couple of hours in the afternoon (I was joking). She laughed... "What?!?! YOU driving a bus... first of all, you could never maneuver between cars in that thing, you can't even pull my car into the garage." She then adds "Plus I can see you chasing down cars that pass you while your stop sign is out, yelling to the kids, 'Buckle up, we're going after 'em!!' Some kid would still be hanging onto the door because they were in the process of getting off the bus when you rammed it into gear. " Now see, that comment implies I have no self control, and I do! I mean, I have my moments, she'll never let me live down. Like the time I went into the gas station to tell the two non-English speaking men, who parked at the only working gas pump, and proceeded to go in and "shop,", while I was waiting in line behind them, that they needed to move their truck. It was a courtesy call, at best. It was!!

She says she has to monitor me... that she worries for my safety. It was why we traded in my cute little Mini... loved that car. It was sturdy, safe, and it could make a u-turn in my drive-way. It was like a little go-kart that could hit over 100 mph quickly, and slow down just as quickly by simply removing your foot from the peddle. LOVED that car, but people, especially men in big trucks with silver balls hanging from the back bumper (not kidding), would ride my a**, no matter how fast I went. You want to talk about losing it. I didn't care who it was... so, we got rid of the Mini. I'm trying to work her for the new Mini crossover, but I don't think that's happening.

 Anyway... the Phentermine seems to be doing it's job for the wife, though yesterday, I was feeling a bit frustrated with it all. I read up on MS and Phentermine. Every single person who has been on this drug, and has MS, said it gave them the energy they've so greatly missed, because MS totally sucks the energy out of you. Well, the first day the wife took it, she was totally drugged. She was slurring, couldn't walk a straight line, and was very tired. For all I know, that could have been an MS episode, but since it came on the heels of her taking the medicine for the first time, we attributed it to that. Yesterday we split the pill in half... and guess what?!? She didn't sleep last night, AND she was up first thing this morning! I'm praying this will be a trend, but now I must go force her to eat, and take the pill. A whole one this time. Let's try this again!!

Have a great Thursday everyone!!

Phentermine... You know, that stuff

What an eventful (but not) Tuesday morning this has been. The kids came home yesterday, but I almost forgot they were here, because as of 11:30 am, I still have not heard the pitter patter of their large teen feet.

We've already taken Cam in to be fixed. I've already received the call telling me all is well, and that he is now sleeping peacefully. We've cleaned the bird cage, had breakfast, and the wife has started her special miracle weight loss pill, Phentermine.

Phentermine is the other half of the infamous weight loss concoction fen-Phen. It's supposed to be the half that doesn't do damage to your heart. Honestly, I haven't researched it all that much (I normally research everything), which I suppose you could put in the reaction box labeled "denial." Meaning... I know how desperate the wife is to lose this weight, and I know I want her to be successful. Not for any reason other than when I tell her she looks good, I will no longer get the eye-roll response, and the "No I don't, you're blind, I'm fat," plus any number of responses I get when I tell her something wonderful and sweet. Seriously.

Back in the day, fen-Phen was the big weight loss miracle pill... until people started having heart problems. Though not everyone taking this pill fell ill, the drug manufacturer suffered a terrible blow, took the drug off the market, and literally had the pants sued off of them, by those who suffered major health issues (or death) after taking this medication. Today, they say that only those with a pre-existing heart condition suffered ill effects, but being overweight can cause heart problems and high blood pressure, so I can only imagine the numbers were large.

The wife actually took fen-Phen way back when. She says she didn't suffer any ill effects, and had the whole medical work-up to prove it. I still wonder if some of the "symptoms" she suffers from now, may not be totally related to the MS, but something else entirely. I've said it before, and I'll say it again... I worry about the MS and this drug, though I know weight loss will help her symptoms. You see, with MS your metabolism is screwed up, and weight gain is imminent. With weight gain, you suffer more symptoms of the disease.

MS can rear it's ugly head at any time, but it's helpful to pay attention to each instance, so that you can perhaps narrow down the reason for each particular flare up. Extreme heat is a major contributor to flare-ups. This summer, the wife suffered a terrible episode after walking off the tennis courts. Her hearing went, she went numb on one side of her body, and she felt so weak she could hardly walk. She didn't have her cell phone, but luckily she was able to regain some control, and walk home. Scary stuff.

Extreme stress is another major contributor to flare-ups. When she was working, her business partner was a major cause of extreme stress. She literally played games with her, telling her she said one thing, then saying she said something else. Luckily, the wife would normally have her on speaker phone, so I was able to hear most conversations, and I have a most excellent memory. This was one of the main reasons I disliked this woman. Telling her about the MS, and the confirming brain lesions, was a huge mistake.

The wife's thought processes, though a bit slow at times, were not that far off the beaten path. Her major dislike was having to go through paperwork with a fine tooth comb. I would come home from work, and she'd be in a fetal position, literally (joking, but kind of not), over the stress caused by the ex BP, and the details of everything.

Traveling was also a contributor.... not your typical one flight there, and one flight back, but the ones that had her transferring from one flight, to rush to another one, only to be a few minutes too late, etc, etc. SO... I guess that could fall under stress.

I'm going through all of this for a few reasons... one, because I've noticed on my stats, that someone is reading my old posts about MS, meaning someone must have it, or know someone who does. The other reason, is that I want to remember the day the wife started her Phentermine, so that I can monitor her symptoms, and make sure there is no correlation between the pill and any flare-ups that may occur.

Neither one of us is really sure exactly what lands someone in the hospital with MS, or what puts someone in a wheel chair. We've volunteered often at nursing homes, and there was a woman around our age in one of them, with the medical diagnosis of MS. She told us that she also did quite a few illegal drugs  in her past... so lets make note... illegal drugs could be a major contributor. Makes sense to me. I also hold out hope that the illegal drugs are the reason why my mother is so incredibly mentally ill.

Anyway... I'll wrap this up for now, because it is already 12:30, I still don't hear the pitter patter of teen feet, and I need to go make myself productive with other things.

I hope everyone has a wonderful day!!