Just Two Chicks!

Just Two Chicks!


Thursday, June 14, 2012

Music in my head

Do you ever wake up with a song in your head? Today's song was "Summertime, summertime, sum, sum, summertime..." I'm sure most of you know this one! I don't know why I woke with this song. I guess because I actually got to sleep in until 9 am! I've been incredibly worn out these past few weeks. 

I didn't blog about it, but the wife and I officially made things as official as they can be considering we  live in the land of no equality, no freedom, no liberty, and no justice... at least not for ALL citizens. It's always been this way... just different groups of people through different periods in history. 

I normally refrain from equality discussions (unless I'm pushed too far with news stories that do at times overwhelm me), and such, on here. I mean, that really wasn't the purpose of my blog. I didn't set it up as a trail blazing testament for gay rights. 

That being said, I can't tell you how ridiculous it felt, putting these stamps on our "commitment ceremony" invites.

Can we sue the good ole' USA for false advertising? Sue for our rights?
Or how belittling it felt to have to call it a "commitment ceremony," rather than a "wedding," because that's just not acceptable. I will say that we have the best friends ever. They called it a wedding... they all came... they all showed support, and love, and acceptance beyond what I could have ever imagined. 

We had the most wonderful evening with about 60 of our closest friends. I can't tell you how good it felt to look at all of those people, and know that they are indeed our closest friends. For someone who fought long and hard to try to love this small town, it finally came. I love going somewhere and seeing someone I know, whether it's the gym, the grocery store, the spa, or the landscape store. I love that the boy can just get up, walk to the tennis courts and have a session with the pro. I love that we can be driving down the road, see the girl driving the other way, see that she is on the phone while driving, and then scold her for it, because she can't lie about it when we saw her. I love the local coffee house, and the amazingly hot landscaper who has been doing some work for us (the wife and I both think he is hot). I met this guy at the gym, and didn't really notice how very hot he is. Whew! The next time he comes, we're supposed to call our friends over for coffee, so they can stare at him with us. I love that! 

Okay... enough of this big ole' love session. I will post pictures from Saturday's event when our photographer gets the proofs ready. 

Oh, one thing I need to say is that the wife and I didn't just decide to have this ceremony out of the blue. We've been planning since Christmas... through all of this we've suffered through some "emotional distance" issues, but made our way back, then forth, then back... My point is, we didn't decide to do this because of the issues with emotional distance. I think a lot of people think more of a commitment will seal that distance... and I will be the first to say if you're doing it for that reason, then step back and don't do it. I will also say that life is not always going to be happy, sappy (thank goodness). If you have the strength in your relationship to work through the hardest parts, then you have the commitment. Apparently the wife and I are committed enough that we can gawk over the hotness of the landscaper and be okay with that!! I wonder... should I try to take a picture of him? Hmmm... :p~~~~


middle child said...

Congratulations!(and boy do I wish there was spell check on comment section).I am glad you are settled in a good place. Since you have pushed your way through the bad things and know there are more to come, Ithink you will both be fine. As for the hot guy? I say you girls each get on either side of him, fawn over him and let someone else take a picture of the three of you. Think he'd be cool with that? Blessings.

Rob-bear said...

Well done, the two of you! And so great you could have so many friends and family on hand!

Blessings and Bear hugs from the Bear up here.